ABUSIVE PARENTING

Growing up with parental abuse is not a joke
It is happening mostly in the African (Nigerian) setting.
People that don't experience this would see it as being virtual.

But this is a reality that the World isn't ready to face.
Parental abuse remains number one emotional pain before heartbreak and the rest.
African parents imply a whole lot on their children as love which would only evolve to hatred in the future.

In the name of unconditional care, they would rain a child with abuses accompanied with tons of irrelevant attacks.

Errands are okay, but a child can complain of sickness and get ignored or shouted at.
You must work before being attended to.

At the end, it would be tagged, "I WAS TRAINED THAT WAY", or " DURING MY TIME, IT WAS THIS WAY".
Only 2.5% of parents know the secrets of their children.
And even if they know, they would use it against you till Christ returns.

Abuse comes in different ways
Insults and verbal attacks. Saying the child will never be successful.
Mocking of a child's talent and the abuse would come with shouting excessively.
The child would not even have the chance to voice out.
The insult can originate out of nothing, or when a child is simply too relaxed.

Comparison
Because your Friend's child is a doctor, my son must be a doctor too.
Suddenly, you begin to impose a child to study where the flair isn't present.
Your friends must not be more intelligent or more smart, or it would be used against you till whenever.

Your speech is compared
Your manner of approach and your level of excellence.

How would a parent feel to be compared to Dangote since they're mates?
If you make an utterance, you're a strong witch and you would be rebuked.

Physical abuse
Beatings, and hitting of children ain't new, after all parents quote the Bible
"Spare the rod and spoil the child"
With this, you can be beaten to death.

Mistakes are meant to be corrected and if beating implies
It is not every time, your belt is out or the nearest stick is on the skin of your child.
Next time, when the child defaults, he/she will never speak up.

You're creating a monster.

Personal opinion
A child never has a voice in an African home, what Mum and Dad say stands no matter how you would feel.
They created you so you're more of a gadget.

Speak only when required, and if you want to get smarter than them.
The abuse comes in, then whatever gives you joy is seized or taken away to teach you a lesson despite your age.
As long as you dwell under the same roof.

Parents want a meal by midnight you would wake and do it.
You would want to do a chore, if it is not their way.
Their abuse will never cease to end.
You would be scolded and only tears can keep you company during such trail.

Parental abuse is increasing every day
And when the family goes out, there would be this drama as though everything is alright.

They would hug and care in public meanwhile at home, they are a real definition of ferocious.

Deep hypocritical shit.
The love is only present during childhood if it was even present.

They would provide a meal and necessary amenities and of course your life is entitled to them.
To the outside world, parents are perfect but inside pain is simply inevitable.

Parents do you know the dream of your kid?
Do you know their favourite person ?
If your child gets into trouble, like forgery, rape or crime
Would they confide in you or some random stranger?
Do you know their sexual activities?
Why do they prefer social media to voice out instead of you?

How do you correct them when they go astray?
When the fail, how do you react?
You scream at each failure and mistake
And say you regret having then in the first place.

When you realize you've crossed the line, you call them and pet them for a moment
But the abuse continues and the child grows with it.

How are aggressive husbands made?
How are materialistic wives made?
How are insulting wives made?
How are cheating husbands made?

They are monsters created by their parents.
And they would blame the Devil, always the Devil at the end.

Abuse is very painful because the child becomes scared and cannot confront the parental body in any way.

After years, once a memory comes to play
They would ask the child, "Why didn't you tell me?"
It is because your abusive level did not make that possible.

I'll stay positive so when I attain that level
My kids would see parenting in a different perspective.

But now, if I was to choose to say my source of depression and secrets to my parents or die

I would choose death without blinking
Because telling an abusive parent an issue is a slow death.